Oh this comfy bed…

My little man is 21 months old.  Since he was born, he has probably slept in his own bed, right through the night, for about 6 months in total.  That means my husband and I have had the pleasure of a third person in bed with us for roughly 15 months.  Don’t get me wrong, I love cuddling up to my precious bundle of joy, but there are some nights when all I want to do is sleep, without being pushed out of the bed…

Thus I have come to the conclusion that he doesn’t like his cot.

The cot in question is 32 and a half years old.  How do I know?  My dad built it for me.

It is made out of beautiful oak, and has been wood-stained mahogany.  When my dad found out he was going to be a grandad, one of the first things he did was to get my old cot and crib out of the attic to refurbish them.  My son was in my rocking crib for about 5 months, until he outgrew it.  He never had any problem in sleeping in there.  When we moved him in to his cot (in his own room), he slept right the way through for a while…  Then the wake-ups started.

Now I just think he likes the comfort of the “big bed”.  He often takes himself to bed (alone), and he will tuck himself in too.  Fancy that.  A 21 month old in a king-size bed.  Sometimes he shouts at my husband and I if we disturb him…  So there’s my predicament.

What is the right age to move your baby to a bed?  A real bed.  As in, with no “sides” to keep him ‘locked in’.

I’ve been looking at toddler beds recently, and they say “suitable for 18 months to 4 years old”.  Sounds good, and the prices are affordable too.  I could buy a wonderful ‘car’ or ‘boat’ frame for around £90 ($140-ish US), but then there’s another £200 ($300-ish US) on top of that for a mattress…  What an extortionate price for something that my little man will outgrow before his 4th birthday…

So, let’s forget about the interim bed and move him straight to a “real” bed.  In the attic, at my parents house, my old single bed is wrapped up in poly-wrap; as well as my (exceedingly!) comfortable mattress.  The whole thing is in excellent condition.  But do I just jump straight to this for him?  There’s the safety aspect that I would have to consider; for example, (again) my son is 21 months old.  Will he fall out of the bed, because it is too high?  I’d like to place a very large bet on “yes”.  So if I chose that path, I would have to purchase side rails for him.  I’ve just priced these, and for a “folding bed rail – in blue”, I’m looking at £25 ($40-ish US).  Would I need just one, for the top end; or would I need two to completely secure him, hence bringing us back to the same problem of the cot..?

I’m at a whim.  I’ll keep you all updated, because I can’t see him still having his cot by the end of summer.


Facebook is good for something


The mere word can start a fully fledged conversation as to how brilliant it is for keeping up-to-date with family & friends and for playing games, or it can send people running for the hills due to security and safely implications.

I’m a bit of both.  I love the fact that I can keep in touch with my family members and friends who live a distance away.  We share photo’s and funny stories about our lives, that otherwise would be missed.  What I don’t like is that anyone can search for you.  They can find out some very simple facts, and some very important, private, life events.  This includes total strangers.

Take, for example, when I set up an ‘event’ for my son’s first birthday party.  It included dates, places, times, photo’s, etc.  A lot of things that I wanted to be kept private from those who were not invited.  Because of this, I set the privacy and viewing to ‘invited only’.  So one day, I see a notification that someone had commented on one of the posts in the ‘event’.  I log into the page, and what do I see?  A comment from someone I have never even heard of.  This person turned out to be ‘a friend of a friend’.

How on earth..?  I re-read all the privacy T&C’s to see, in very small print, that ‘friends of friends, and in place, friends of friends of friends (etc.) can see the event and comment, etc. in the even page if an invited person makes an initial comment’.

So what does setting the privacy factor to ‘invited only’ mean?  Obviously nothing.

But regardless of what has happened there, it seems that one particular story has had a very successful outcome.

On 27 January 2013, a young woman posted this picture:


I read the following story with interest, as sometimes good things do happen.

One woman in search of her biological parents found her apparent birth mother and father after posting a picture of herself on Facebook. On Jan. 27, Jenessa Simons shared a photo of herself holding a handwritten sign with her birth information.

Two days later, her birth mother reached out to her.

Simons’ search began when she was 18, but she had to wait three years before submitting paperwork to the state. She decided to try her luck on Facebook while waiting, after seeing the success of posters who garnered 1 million likes for a puppy.

Her photo included what little information she knew: her birthday, hospital, parents’ dates of birth and contact information. They were 16 at the time, and they named her Whitney. The image spread quickly, with more than 14,000 likes and 160,763 shares at time of writing.

On Tuesday, Simons announced on Facebook that she found her birth mother and, later, contact information for her birth father. A high school friend of the two contacted Simons’ biological mother, who got in touch with the 21-year-old.

She was skeptical at first until the woman sent her baby pictures Simons’ adoptive mother had given her.

So how was that for an uplifting story?  The privacy factor on Facebook is still a huge problem in my book, but when it comes down to it, the lack of security in place makes things like the aforesaid story happen.